Couples Intensives offer another option to traditional couples therapy…

When your relationship is struggling, it can feel like everything you do somehow makes things worse. Maybe one of you is constantly trying to talk while the other shuts down or pulls away. Maybe trust has been broken, intimacy has faded, or years of hurt and resentment have left you wondering how you became so disconnected from the person you once felt closest to. You might still love each other deeply—and still have no idea how to fix what’s happening between you.

When your relationship is in that much distress, waiting an entire week between traditional couples therapy sessions can feel overwhelming. You finally begin talking about something important, the session ends, and you’re left trying to manage all of those emotions until your next appointment.

Instead of trying to repair your relationship one hour at a time, a couples intensive gives you several days of dedicated, uninterrupted time to understand what has happened between you, address the pain that keeps getting in the way, and begin rebuilding your emotional connection.

What Is Intensive Couples Therapy?

Intensive Couples Therapy is a focused approach to marriage and relationship counseling that allows couples to do deeper work over several consecutive days rather than spreading therapy across months of weekly appointments.

A couples intensive creates space to slow everything down.

What keeps happening between you?

Why does one conversation turn into the same fight you’ve had dozens of times?

Why does one partner pursue while the other pulls away?

Why do you both leave arguments feeling unheard, unwanted, misunderstood, or alone?

And most importantly: How do you begin changing it?

My Couples intensives are grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a research-supported approach to couples therapy that focuses on strengthening the emotional bond between partners.

Rather than deciding who is right and who is wrong, EFT helps couples recognize the negative relationship cycle they’ve become trapped in—and understand the deeper emotions, fears, and needs underneath their reactions.

Who Is a Couples Therapy Intensive For?

A marriage or couples therapy intensive may be especially helpful if:

• You keep having the same arguments without resolving anything.

• Communication quickly turns into criticism, defensiveness, or shutting down.

• One or both of you feel emotionally disconnected.

• Trust has been damaged.

• Physical or emotional intimacy has disappeared.

• Resentment has been building for months or years.

• Weekly couples counseling hasn’t created the progress you hoped for.

• You’re considering separation or divorce.

• You love each other but don’t know how to find your way back.

• You’re afraid that if something doesn’t change soon, your relationship may not survive.

You don’t have to wait until your relationship is completely falling apart to ask for help. And if you are already at that point, you don’t have to figure out what happens next by yourselves.

Why Choose a Marriage Intensive?

When a relationship is in crisis, momentum matters.

Traditional weekly marriage counseling can be incredibly valuable, but there are times when couples need more space than a 50-minute session can provide.

A marriage intensive gives you concentrated time to stay with important conversations instead of stopping just as you reach the heart of them. There is time to understand your relationship patterns. Time to work through difficult emotions. Time to practice reaching for each other differently. And time to experience what it feels like when the person who has felt so far away begins to feel emotionally accessible again. A few days cannot erase years of hurt, and a couples intensive isn’t a promise that every relationship can or should stay together. It is an opportunity to step away from the cycle you’ve been trapped in and give your relationship focused attention, guided by an experienced couples therapist.

Intensive Couples Therapy gives you dedicated time to understand that pattern, address the pain underneath it, and begin creating a different way of connecting. There are no guarantees and no quick fixes. But there can be a different conversation. A different understanding of each other. And, for some couples, the beginning of a different relationship with the person they already chose.